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"...that it might not pain me..." 1 Chronicles 4:10
on the version that you read, the translation is different. Some say
"that it may not pain me" and some say, "that I might not cause pain."
Both are powerful.
We all know the sting
first hand of pain, whether it be physical or emotional. However, many
times without realizing it or thinking about it, we can be the cause of
someone else's pain.
Who me? Never! Why, we are perfect!
If anything, it
is somehow the other person's fault for taking us the wrong way! We all
have these conversations with ourselves in our minds when we know that
some one is upset with us. And while sometimes that may be true, it is
not accurate 100% of the time.
The name Jabez means
"pain; sorrow". We discussed in this post the importance of the
meaning of names.
The Bible says that Jabez's mother bore him in pain
and then named him Jabez. After having that label on him since birth,
he was asking God to keep him from causing any more pain.
I might not cause pain" admits that we are human and as humans we have
the capability to make mistakes which cause pain. By asking God to keep
us from causing pain, we are asking Him to help us be mindful of those
around us, their sensitivties, needs, and situations so that we are not
responsibile for causing pain in their lives.
Matthew 18:7 says, "Woe
unto the world because of offenses! for it must needs be that offenses
come; but woe to that man by whom the offense cometh!"
We want to be
sure that we are not the cause of offense or hurt in someone's
it may not pain me" is asking God to protect us from the same pain that
we do not want to inflict on others. And although no one wants to
experience pain in any way, we understand that pain can happen, but we
are asking God to keep the pain from being a permanent throb.
as a stay-at-home wife and mother, I am limited to the interactions that
I have. Help me not to cause pain to the ones that see me the most and
who I love the most.