Friday, August 23, 2013
Daddy's Way Is Just As Good
Head cold and migraine sick.
So sick that I curled up on the couch in the fetal position because that was the only way for me to get comfortable.
That's when Brian took over.
He took over dinner and cleaned up the kitchen for me after dinner and got the kids ready for bed.
As he was putting the kids to bed, I heard my five year old say, "That's not how Mommy does it."
I called back, not having moved from my spot, "Daddy's way is just as good."
As moms, we have our way of doing things. We have certain routines, methods, rituals, and ways that we allow to direct how specific times in our day run.
That is a good thing.
But it is equally important that our children realize that there is another way to do the same things we do with them.
There are going to be times that Mommy will not be able to take care of her normal duties, and when that time comes it is important that Mommy does her part to let Daddy do it his way.
Daddy's way is usually more spontaneous.
There is usually a method to our madness. There has to be for us to get through our day and accomplish all of the tasks on our list. When Daddy steps in, he just does what he wants to get the job done. Our kids need to see that spontaneity is a good thing.
Daddy's way is usually more fun.
While we may stand over them to make sure their teeth get brushed, Daddy will turn it into a game. Our kids need to see that the world does not have to be serious all of the time.
Daddy's way shows them that there is always another way to do the same thing.
Many times our children can fall into the rut of how "Mommy does it." They need to see that there is another way to complete the same task. They will learn one day that there is more than one way to arrive at the right answer for a math problem. Why not teach them the concept now?
When we acknowledge to our children that Daddy's way is just as good as Mommy's way, we will see our husbands have a more willing heart about helping us. He probably wants to help, but as a man, he does not want to be made to feel unmanly because he doesn't do something the way you might.
Let him do it his way.
And be sure to tell your children that Daddy's way is just as good.